REBUILDING MY LIFE

 

Life also comes in seasons, life changes, we all go through changes, transitions and transformation, this is my season for those huge changes, transitions and transformation. For me, the change is triggered by divorce which is one of life’s big milestones. I aim not to rebuild who I was but I aim to become who I have never been, whole, healed and wildly anointed a better version of myself. I don’t have to fix the past to claim my future because I know for sure that I can’t change history but I can definitely influence and shape my future, I’m free to walk boldly and confidently into new beginnings. I’m in the driver’s seat now, I know I have the power to do whatever it takes to make me real and in charge of my life again.

 

Change is inevitable and for me the big question now is where do I go from here? I’m now at a point where I have to examine my values and re-evaluate my priorities, I question a lot of the choices I made the past and in life under general. But also I have learned that it is okay not to know where I’m going next and it also okay that I don’t have a perfectly planned roadmap to my final destination.

 

Changing my life and starting over in life doesn’t mean I’ve lost everything I’ve learned, gained and experienced. My experiences are what got me to where I am and shaped the woman that I am today. I’m now wiser than I was even just 2 days ago. However, for me to embrace the change, I have to find myself first, understand who I am, start loving myself, be selfish and start showing up for myself fully.

 

My starting point should be a reflection on my life, understand where I’m starting from, know where I’m going, examine myself and my life. I must also examine my value system which is a big step because as we grow and evolve as people, our responsibilities and circumstances change. Our values often change and some get left behind in favour of different values that reflect our current age, stage, and circumstances hence it’s important as me to go through a transformation and take a step back to examine what’s important and ask myself the most relevant and important questions like the following:

 

• What are my key values? 
• What are the most important key values that are missing from my life?
• Do I really want at my age to change My values?
• What family values have an impact on me as an individual?

 

It is time I revisit and rewrite my goals as it’s common that goals shift and change. And just because we have written goals it doesn’t mean we have to remain committed to them if they are no longer of use or serves the direction we want to go. Working up the courage to commit to change is often scary because it’s not easy to commit to making a change as I must be intentional about it and it’s going to take a lot of courage, bravery and self-awareness. In this rebuilding journey, I must always remind myself that I’m in charge of my life, I have to choose the best way forward for me and I can make a change if I want to, but it’s going to take a lot of action and not just a thought. I also have to be very intentional about how I’m going to grind in on my life’s purpose and decide on what will bring me more peace and joy to my daily life.

 

This all starts with building a strong support structure/network. Being intentional and surrounding myself with a community that is supportive i.e. friends and family even mentors who will uplift and encourage me in my aspirations. The people who will offer constructive feedback and criticism, celebrate my wins and provide a listening ear and a shoulder to cry on during challenges. By cultivating supportive relationships and encouraging positivity, will enable me to create a conducive environment for my personal growth and well-being while I change my life.

 

And most importantly keep checking in on myself because like any new route in life, it comes with its own ups and downs. I must check in on the various areas of my life that are changing and if “I FAIL IT’S OKAY” because I can always get back up and try again. And each time I win, I’m definitely going to make sure that I celebrate every victory achieved be it big or small including the life changes I’m embracing. I will ensure that I practice self-care, self-love and self-compassion more often and I’m kinder and gentler with myself than I’ve ever been to myself.

 

 

This is just the beginning and I know I have a long way to go, this doesn’t mean that everything will be rosy or that everything will work out the way I want or expect because we live in a broken and messy world but believe you me I strongly believe it is worth every tear I cried, the betrayal, the rejection, the cheating, the list goes on and on and on… I move forward in the confidence assurance that the Holy Spirit is at work in my life, interceding, advocating, celebrating and grieving with me. I may not understand now but one day I will see the complete picture that the Lord is painting in my life because nothing I went through and still go through is and will be wasted. As hard as it is to believe but God uses it all, the good and the bad, the polished and the messy, the planned and the unsettled, the clear and the misunderstood, the encouraging and the hurtful. There can never be the crown before there is a cross, my God is the Master of working everything together for our good and for His glory and this is my appointed time for testimonies to glorify His Name 🙏🏽🙏🏽

 

Cheers to new beginnings and embracing change as I rebuild my life because I know success is imminent!

 

My journey continues and I strive to move towards a happier and more fulfilling life🥂💃🏽🥰 I’m Just A Small Girl With A Big God🙏🏽💕 Mercy Rewrote My Life🙏🏽💕 Grace Has Located Me🙏🏽💕 I Am An Overcomer🙏🏾💕A Very Beautiful Story❤️ Live in the moment, Laugh harder, Love deeply & Celebrate more💕🎉🥂💃🏽🥰

 

But may the God of all grace, who called us to His eternal glory by Christ Jesus, after you have suffered a while, perfect, establish, strengthen, and settle you. - 1 Peter 5:10🙏🏽🙏🏽

 

Love & Light

Dipsy💚