WALKING AWAY

There is so much beauty and power in walking away, it doesn’t just command and demand respect, but it exudes confidence. It also says I’m choosing me, I’m walking away from the mess, I’m walking away from the chaos, I’m walking away from the disrespect, I’m walking away from the stress, I’m walking away from the negativity, I’m walking away from the toxicity, I’m walking away from the gossip, I’m walking away from the heartbreak, I’m walking away from the hate and I’m walking away from everything else not meant for me, this sends a clear message that I highly value myself, and what I have to offer, that I won't tolerate being mistreated nor disrespected or taken for granted. Let’s be honest walking away from any situation where there’s emotions involved especially a relationship/marriage or even a friendship can be difficult especially when there’s children involved, but it is also necessary for one’s personal growth and well-being. Someone once said to me that healing is very painful especially when you know you could have saved yourself all the trouble, avoided being hurt and walked away. I felt it because it’s the honest truth most of us are broken because we chose to abandon ourselves just to keep the peace, we ignored our own feelings, we called survival strength, we did not love ourselves enough to walk away sooner.

When we eventually called it quits, I had to make a difficult decision of walking away from the chaos that came with our divorce. As painful as it was, I had to choose my peace and let me tell you that gave me power over my situation and helped me heal quite quickly. I was labelled a lot of things, a lot of people who didn’t know me that way, the people that I’ve never even had a decent conversation with felt they were justified and at liberty to attack my character, have an opinion about my situation and even disrespect me only because my ex-husband was spreading malicious and unfounded rumours about me. I did not respond nor was I going to respond to whatever was said about me, but truth be told I was hurt, the gossip almost broke me. Making the decision to walk away was the most difficult decision I could ever make for my sanity and my peace, but I did, and it worked for me. A lot of people thought I was giving up and giving him the power by not responding, not defending my character and my reputation. What people didn’t realise was that my silence gave me the power, let me make one thing very clear: there’s a difference between giving up and walking away. Giving up is motivated and prompted by fear as well as defeat, while walking away is a mindful choice made for self-protection and growth. Walking away from something that doesn’t serve your higher purpose, says I choose myself as well as my peace, it is very empowering. If you're giving up because of fear, it may slow down your healing process as well as your growth. I wasn’t going to let the fear of being shamed based on lies to force me to make a decision that I would later regret, I was adamant that I’m not going to say anything, and I knew at some point everyone who thought they had the right to talk about me and disrespect me like that would get tired and stop. This was the best decision for myself, my sanity, my children and our future, it empowered me as I chose peace over being right.

I have learned through therapy that in order to walk away you need to recognize the signs that it may be time to move on and if you must seek support to take that step, don’t be shy nor be ashamed ask for help, I had learned the signs and I knew it was time for me to walk away. If it no longer serves your higher purpose, walk away, if he cheats on you, walk away, if he stops investing in you and your relationship, walk away. If you both no longer have the same interests and want different things in life, you want one thing, and he wants another, walk away. You can either give-in to keep the peace, which will make him lose respect for you and you resenting him in the long run. Walk away because it is not worth all the trauma and stress, I learned this the hard way.

We care so much that we sometimes compromise our happiness by staying in toxic relationships and environments. Caring doesn’t mean you have to stay, I have learned that sometimes the healthiest and best thing you can do for yourself is walk away, if it drains you, delays you or disrespects you let it go and walk away. Choosing to walk away and leave someone we are deeply in love with can be the hardest decision we ever have to make. However, when a relationship causes more hurt, more harm than joy, walking away is a decision that ultimately serves us well. The pain of parting must be seen as a price worth paying for the freedom to be truly happy, peaceful, and sane, this sends a clear message that you're coming from a place of abundance, and that you value your peace but most importantly you choose yourself. 

Me being silent and walking away from the Chaos, was me choosing, loving, and showing up for myself (For God is not the author of confusion but of peace – 1 Cor 14:33🙏🏾🙏🏾). Me walking away from the Mess, was me choosing, loving, and showing up for myself (Let all things be done decently and in order – 1 Cor 14:40🙏🏾🙏🏾). Me being silent and walking away from the Stress, was me choosing, loving, and showing up for myself (Come to me, all you who are weary and burdened, and I will give you rest – Matt 11:28🙏🏾🙏🏾). Me being silent and walking away from the Negativity, was me choosing, loving and showing up for myself (Do not conform to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind – Romans 12:2🙏🏾🙏🏾) Me being silent and walking away from Anything Not Meant For Me, was me choosing, loving and showing up for myself (The Lord will withhold no good thing from those who do what is right – Psalm 84:11🙏🏾🙏🏾).

Amid the chaos, the mess, the stress, the disrespect as well as the negativity that came with the gossip and the disrespect, I decided that I’m not giving up because the woman I’ll be in a few years from now is counting on me to not give up but walk away. With all that being said, I can confidently say I know I am the queen👑 that I think I am because despite everything, I’m standing tall feeling grateful that I walked out not broken, but a queen👑💖 and for that I give all honour, glory and praise to God🙏🏾🙏🏾

My journey continues and I strive to move towards a happier and more fulfilling life🥂💃🏽🥰 I’m Just A Small Girl With A Big God🙏🏽💕 Mercy Rewrote My Life🙏🏽💕Mercy Said No🙏🏽💕 Grace Has Located Me🙏🏽💕 I Am An Overcomer🙏🏾💕A Very Beautiful Story❤️ Live in the moment, Laugh harder, Love💖 deeply & Celebrate more💕🎉🥂💃🏽🥰

 

If it is possible, as far as it depends on you, live at peace with everyone - Romans 12:18 🙏🏾🙏🏾

Love & Light 

Dipsy💚